So what do you do in rl?

Hey! If I could :finger: myself, do you think I'd waste my time here?

Seriously, also good advice.

I know I'd get the horse laugh from you, 1/2ling, but I'd marry again. She wouldn't even have to be "the one". Just someone who would be a good friend.

 

Hear!! Hear!!

Let's check back with Half Wit after he's had a failed marriage or two!! :yikes:

Seriously HK, damn good advice (for the most part ) :hug:

 

Yeah, the alcohol thing is something I would avoid. Ditto, drugs. The bad thing is they do sort of work, but then you pay a price for what is just temporary relief.

When you sober up, the problem is still there. So, you do it again. And again. Now you have a worse problem. A life-destroying problem. No one is worth giving up the good things in your life for. She's not THAT important.

One of the things that I've done in real life is try to help the victims of this. You don't have to do alcohol or drugs to be a victim. And they are ENDLESS.

 

Well, you only need one hand...
Oh, i forgot what Ted said...disabled? :giggle:

Someone who can handle cold beers n cook, i guess

Oh, i almost got married once.
Dated a girl for a long time (for my standards), something like 2 years. She was from another province in my country, so we see each other 3 or 4 times a week t'll we could marry.
On one of those trips, she had the most stupid car crash accident, and our little 4 months son Brian died. Neither of us where the same.
It's been almost 10 years, and today i still cry sometimes. That wound healed, but left a huge scar, probably the worst i have, and hurts a lot.
So, no...no marriage for me. :blank:

But hey, let's not make this the "grim thread"

Basically, everything heals with time, but is up to you if you stitch the wound, or let it open. Letting it bleed isn't, of course, good.

EDIT: alcohol doesn't work. You'll rather remember things, than forgetting. Let's be honest, who didn't got drunk, and ended crying in a corner?
Forget it. Take a few Mojitos, maybe a glass of Vodka, with some good partner, and talk as much as you can. But don't get drunk, no.

 

thats such a tragedy i lost my niece long ago in a similar way. im sory.


and i dont drink/smoke anyway. when i drink it affects me phsyically for like 1-2 months. fast metobolism or smt. and i feel breathless with the smell of smoke. i dont even take medicine unless its uber improtant too

 

Geez, feel bad about mentioning "getting trashed". It was meant more as a mood lightener than serious advice.

I did the "obliterated" option just one time during the marriage breakup. Let me tell you, that paper towel dispenser was never the same! (I clocked it good in a fit of alcohol induced rage and pain).

The guys are right, while it works for awhile to numb the pain, the issue still remain and must be faced. Numb up too much and you've got yourself a whole new set of problems, trust me.

 

Most people who get trashed, don't do it on the advice of a game website. So I wasn't too worried about kio getting trashed.

I was thinking he might view a little bit of drinking as a solution, and, when it "works", do it again and again. Another problem is that after a few drinks, there may be an impulse to go and try to "solve" the problem, or some other stupid behavior.

Geaer's wise and inciteful advice applies more to these behaviors, than binging. Makes me think he's a pro.

Let me add one more possible solution: a program of physical exercise. It burns up useless energy, gives you something to focus your passions on, adds structure to your free time, gives you a sense of accomplishment, gets you in shape, teaches you physical skills (depending on the program) and improves your physical and mental health. :thumbsup:

Oh, and the chicks will want your hot bod.

 

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Hence, exercize works. Go to a different place and forget her, show off your ass, check out other girls' asses. And most important of all, get rid of your anger, exercise until you are too tired to be angry. If you hold it in, it will come out in a bad way, and get you into trouble. You don't need that kind of stress. No one is worth that.

Okay guys, what are some more good ideas for dealing with stress in real life? I wouldn't mind a few pointers myself.

 

If I may add my 2c, I'm pretty short-tempered and, too, have problems
with managing my anger. I don't do exercise, I'm too lazy for that. Instead
I think up/devise/write a riff or two to vent my anger. I do the same when
I'm feeling down. So, try to do something creative, like drawing (those portraits
are waiting!), writing poetry, music, anything to keep your mind of the things
that bother you. It helps.

 

normal anger is good in fact. makes you be yourself. but its the rage or some kind of heat that the crowded city life drives you into is the bad news. the fear of "getting in trouble" makes us throw alot things into ourselves and it adds up.. making our hair fall and a nice beer belly.

must stop being lazy. must stop making it go into you. going to countryside sooths you but it doesnt make the things inside you go away. find a way to express yourself? idk.. find a windy alley? swim at sea? i hear the minerals in the sea water is good for stress. but i think its the fact that youre swimming inside real nature that is spread across miles that makes you feel good.

stress is the result of inability. do the things you wanted to do and it should go away.


also meditation and prayers help alot too. but they only work if you havent been lazy all day.

 

Thanks kio. For your good ideas. I hope you're feeling better and moving on. :thumbsup: