Relationship Rant Thread

Well, I ain't got time or money for empathy that doesn't develop naturally. I'm not wasting another year of my life crushing over a gal who isn't taking this seriously. So I think I'm rationally better off getting over the situation as quick as possible and moving on.

 

And hanging and hanging and hanging.

Should call it "no fly zone."

 

So I suppose congratulations are in order, I apologized (not to look like an asshole - I'm too nice, really) and canceled the date. I wanna enjoy myself, not deal with some girl who's afraid of relationships to the point of stressing herself out because of a random date.

Gonna ask someone else out. Wish me luck not to run into another "problematic" girl.

 

Be sure to ask out someone that you are only a little interested in. If it doesn't lead to anything, fine. You had a good time.

 

Well, I put it this way: I see she's freaking out, so if she's not planning/not able to have fun with the date then we best cancel it. She agreed that we should. After that we made small talk for a while and somewhere along the way she mentioned that she's relieved that the situation doesn't appear to be as hard on me as it is on her (which means that I'm apparently not as bad at faking as I thought, although maybe it's just because of my unyielding confidence in life) - no idea what she meant by that, don't wanna read too much into it.

Maybe not the best decision in the world, but it'd be a horrible date if she were to just be awkward and uncomfortable all the time.

Well, surprisingly I don't have that many girl-friends that I'm on close terms with - partly because a number of them were upperclassmen who graduated before me. But well, I'd never ask someone out COMPLETELY randomly. I basically have 3 options:

1. A hot German/Chinese girl who I don't think finds me attractive (though not entirely dismissive) but we chat randomly (mostly about Chinese literature) since we're in the same class.

2. A freshman girl from China, average-looking but kinda cute, behaves like a typical shy Asian girl but my friends claim that she can get a bit wild - not sure I entirely trust that assessment. Apparently very impressed with my Chinese skills and I know her home city fairly well, so we've got a bit in common. On the other hand, we haven't talked that much; still, she greeted me in a very active, friendly manner when we met today. She's said to be into another guy who already has a gf, though.

3. A random girl I know nothing about, registers visually but I don't even know her name. Looks cute though. Commented on my awesomeness today out of the blue (I won first prize at a talent show recently so I'm getting random attention). Unfortunately, that was before I canceled the other date, so I couldn't use the chance to continue conversation. "So crazy it might work" category?

So yeah, I probably don't have time to work on all three though. #3 was my initial crazy idea, but now my friends have all hyped me up about #2 being able to have fun, and somehow that's getting me really horny. Hmmm...

 

I mean someone you are NOT on close terms with. Don't worry about getting it right.

 

^ Well, all three options match

I'm not that worried about getting it right. I think getting rejected a few more times will help me get over my pretentious attempts to get a date... :roll:

 

500 No's + 1 Yes = Yes

Remember to ask BEFORE it's important to you. It's less soul-crushing that way. And be open-minded, you DON'T know ahead of time whether someone is right for you.

 

Except that the "yes" after 500 "nos" will probably arrive just in time for my funeral :yes:

But you're right, and considering that I'm not in the position to look for a serious relationship, maybe the clusterfuck of the previous attempt was a good thing because it looked like the gal was taking it too far.

Well, I'll be taking another shot tonight (though I'll be reeeally surprise if it hits with this one), wish me luck!

 

Weeelll, and congratulations to me again, I scored another rejection today. :chew: At least it was quick and obvious. I reeeeeally need to find a date by the end of the week or I'll be feeling ronery and resentful even though I know it's a stupid thing to do

 

The Law of Averages dictates that you will eventually succeed. :thumbsup:

 

2 down, a little under 3.5 billion to go...

If it weren't for the time constraint, the odds would indeed be in my favor. Giving the extraordinary situation, however, I shall be trying non-standard approaches starting tomorrow, like asking random people.

 

No idea. A form of self-affirmation, I suppose. Trying to restore my ego that took a hit during all that bullshit clusterfuck that happened when I asked out the girl I was actually interested in. IMO a better way getting over it than sulking in my room.

It's also a fun adventure I don't have time for often.