Relationship Rant Thread

I would like very much to know why you think it's disappointing.

I would like very much to know why you think it's disappointing. Not to attack...just to know.

I know. :raving: I did put up a spoiler.

Shot in the dark. What would you call her?

 

Just got back in from patrol , NO DOMESTICS! :joy:

Sent son on two man team with Joe, didn't worry about them once. I must be growing up. The kid handles me better than I handle him. When he was born, I worried that I was not going to do right by him. Apparently I didn't mess him up too badly. Unreserved love makes up for a lot of mistakes, I guess. :hug:

 

Whew, so many things discussed...
I'm not going to quote, since it's pointless.

-Brazilian?? Nope, GA82 is right, i'm Argen. I didn't know that brazilians where considered "pretty".
we Argens, have no need for prettiness, we have the biggest

Spoiler

egos

of the world. :eyebrow:

-The protective matter...well, there's two types, imho. One is social, the other personal.
The social is the "thaught" way, the one that Scryl mentions. Never to hit a woman, move the chair so she can sit, chop the wood instead of her, the usual crap. The thaugth "protectiveness", is usually applied to women, children and old people, basically anyone weaker. It doesn't have much sense, except to inflate the males ego
Then there's the personal. Is as gaear said, a "as it is" thing, something that comes naturally -in most cases-, and applies to everyone (and everything). I assume is some kind of primitive instict, defending the territory.

It is hard to explain... is like trying to explain a male's orgasm to a female or the inverse. And just like that, i prefer examples than words, so judge by yourself :biggergri :

Example 1: I need help with my PC. My (X)GF shows up, and she's an expert. She decides to open the damned thing and take a look. By the time i've opened my mouth to say "lemme handle that", she quickly take off all the plugs, lift the pc, and take it to a better place to work with. Crack it open, touchs and unplugs everything, fiddles a bit more, close, lift again, plugs everything. The only movement i did was to lean forward and kiss her loudly when the stupid machine worked perfectly. The thaught "protectiveness" should have kicked in, and i should have done the heavy work. But i had confidence in her, and i would probably been more an obstruction than help. Besides, when you know the other, you know when to let testosterone kick in.

Example 2: We where hanging out one night (5 girls, 3 boys), roaming around. Most of the group walk forward, laughing and chatting. Two of the girls where some meters behind speaking low, and i was last, cos i'm the kind of guy that always walks "alone" in a group. Suddendly, two guys appear, and block the two girls and start to mess with them. Both girls lower their head and walk away, passing the guys, and when they try to follow them i was already there, blocking the guys. I din't think on anything particular, and they didn't really need protection, since the rest of the group was ahead, but it was instinct.

-About consideration...i usually say "take the remote, look what you want" even when i know she will say "keep it"...is a kind of "if know that you know that i know". That's what i meant when you know the other. She also would know when i really want to watch something, and i don't offer the remote so she wouldn't offend. That's a lot of knowledge
"there is no knowledge, that is no power"

-About the beaten girl: yeah, is kind of difficult to understand. I guess that also applies the "protected" issue. The aggressive the guy, the woman may feel that is a good protection...when actually is quite the contrary (most of the time, the agressors are quite cowardly)

-Bad good boys are the worst.

wheez...i'm lost!

 

Does that mean that we good bad boys are the best? :gotmyatte

 

Was going to comment on this...you did say you always finished last.:gotmyatte

 

I'm not quoting (much), either.

Do you mean 'no knowledge, that is not power?'

Thanks for the response. You sound like an authentic nice guy (unlike Gaear and GA82, who...by self declaration...are one variety or another of bad nice guys).

I don't know why you would introduce yourself to someone as a 'loser.'

I forgot about territory. I need to think about that...but am not going to be able to do that right now.

 

I'd call it auto-irony. I do that all the time, though not in such an outright
way. Perhaps, that's what puts off most women from me. That, and lack
of self-confidence, especially towards those women I seem to care for.

I remember my 'first big love'... I never told her I felt something for her
even though it was quite evident... we liked each other but after some
time I got a big kick in the ass after I saw her with another guy... who is
her present partner. With my attitude to women I'm surprised I found one
who was able to bear with me for almost 4 years...

Sorry.... derailed this a little.

 

Kicking...kissing...

The difference is in the details, hmm?