Relationship Rant Thread

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Gaear, Dec 22, 2008.

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  1. Scryler

    Scryler Night's Wordsmith

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    Thought a little bit of sh*t was good for um cucumbers, no?
     
  2. Sergio Morozov

    Sergio Morozov Paladin

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    Wow, look, we made Queen Scryler angry!

    And, yes, it is good for cucumbers, but only if it is a natural product of vital functions of mammals or birds, not when it is only a polite form of describing twisted human beings.
     
  3. kio11

    kio11 Established Member

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    ouch














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  4. Scryler

    Scryler Night's Wordsmith

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    Well, I was trying to be witty, but I guess I didn't come close to the mark on that one.

    (What mark?)

    (The mark, you idiot!)

    (Ohhhh, that mark. Why didn't you say so in the first place?)

    (Shuuut up! Go sit with the other idiots.)

    Hmmm...maybe I am a little angry at that.
     
  5. GuardianAngel82

    GuardianAngel82 Senior Member

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    You can go ahead and have an argument with yourself. Just don't go through trouble of typing it all out.

    (Shut up, you idiot! Or she will hit us with a chair!)

    (YOU'RE the idiot!...)
     
  6. Sergio Morozov

    Sergio Morozov Paladin

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    This looks suspiciously like a prediction of what I would say, were I able to answer immediately.
     
  7. Ausdoerrt

    Ausdoerrt Veteran Member

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    Well anyway, to conclude the earlier rant, the b*tch doesn't even want to talk to me now. Lost interest when saw I'm too crazy to be easily manipulated, I guess. All in all, what a fucking waste of time. Thankfully, at least I didn't waste any money. Using it to go to an awesome rock-concert or two.

    I'm actually somewhat glad nothing worked out. Getting drunk on ridiculously expensive scotch while playing Civ IV while watching American Psycho was probably one of the most fun evenings I've had.
     
  8. Gaear

    Gaear Bastard Maestro Administrator

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    Strange ... [more keen anlaysis incoming!] ... if she's giving you the cold shoulder, that might mean she's been offended in some way. (People who aren't particularly put out by something don't usually act out, so if she didn't mind you cancelling the date, she shouldn't be acting weird.) Her being offended could mean that a. she actually was into you and you 'hurt' her by not following through and/or letting her be shitty to you instead of vice-versa, or b. as you pointed out, she may just really dislike you and the whole thing left a bad taste in her mouth (no puns please) and she wants to be done with you because her interests are more important than yours are.

    Whatever it was, better her than you.

    If I were you I'd still be really polite to her, but in a way that acknowledges her apparent desire not to interact with you anymore. (I'm assuming you still see her, so smile and don't look grumpy when you do, maybe even say hi, but don't attempt to stop for chatter.) She's probably expecting you to do the opposite, which would allow her the opportunity to blow you off. Don't give her the satisfaction.

    Of course, I could be completely wrong ... but we are all experts as long as we're not wearing the shoes. ;)
     
  9. Ausdoerrt

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    Well, I don't have an excuse to be an asshole, so I'm not being one. Grumpiness on occasion is unavoidable though, considering my constant lack of sleep and oppressive deadlines :( But she definitely looks like she's doing everything to avoid me, despite us seeing each other all the time. She's also changed her mind about coming to my concert cause she's now 'busy', which I'm kind of pissed off about since I actually made an effort to get a ticket.

    And EDIT: if she really hated me she would've made it clear to begin with, I think. And if she were "offended" by canceling the date, it'd be pretty darn stupid, cause she brought it up first and agreed to it in the end. Maybe she's feeling jealous that I'm not heartbroken and crying over her, and looking out for other girls instead.

    Well, whatever the reason for the reaction, it's certainly not getting anything anywhere. I'm at the point of 'demoting' her from 'friend' (people I like talking to) to 'random acquaintance' (people I couldn't care less about). That had better be what she's looking for, cause I think that people actively seeking to dissociate themselves from me should f*** off and go to hell. And nothing, nothing pisses me off as much as people refusing to come and listen to me play, after promising to do so. That's about as much disrespect as you can possibly show.
     
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  10. Gaear

    Gaear Bastard Maestro Administrator

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    Unless she only just came to hate you later. Hate is really not likely the right word (just being snarky there), moreso something like 'uncomfortable with.'

    Maybe, but there's nothing about it being stupid that means it isn't so.

    Sort of speaks for itself, then. Just let her go. But remember ... if you do it with spite, she wins because then she can justify her mistreatment of you to herself because you 'acted like an a-hole' or something. If you do it graciously, you win, because she won't be able to rationalize the mistreatment. Seriously, you will be SO glad later on if you do it this way. It can be hard to think straight when you're in the middle of this stuff. I bet we most all wish we could have 'do-overs' later on.
     
  11. Ausdoerrt

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    Meh, I've managed to keep the spite to myself thus far, I think. This thread is kind of for getting it out of my system ;) Having a bit of trouble finding the fine line b/w "too friendly" and "I don't give a damn", though frankly I feel justified leaning more toward the latter. Don't think I'll care much for do overs though, because frankly, in 2 months' time I'll never see her again, and the way it's going she's not gonna be on my "people to visit when I have money to travel" list.

    So anyway, thanks for the advice, I think I'll just keep doing what I have up to now - absolutely nothing.
     
  12. Sergio Morozov

    Sergio Morozov Paladin

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    I am a pompous buffoon, does anyone know a cure for this condition?
     
  13. GuardianAngel82

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    Being a pompous buffoon is a job requirement for us professors. You have to leave it at the university. And moderate it when you ARE at work. Recognize that it is a persona, a behavior pattern, and develop something different for other occasions and other people. NOT easy, but doable.
     
  14. Sergio Morozov

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    Thanks for advice!

    I will try to do just that!
     
  15. Gaear

    Gaear Bastard Maestro Administrator

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    Is this for a girl? Watch out, because she might say "That Sergio Morozov is so two-faced: sweet as pie at the univesity - even if he is a bit pompous, then totally phony when he's alone with me!"
     
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